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Death and Burial Customs

My experience regarding death began when my son died - such a tumultuous time of sadness, grief and fear.

When my husband told me I had sent my son to hell because of our burial custom, I was shocked!

What a rude, insensitive and horrible thing to say!

After that shock, he then told me that he wasn't sure if he wanted to continue this relationship, and left.

Well those remarks of his got me thinking, that's for sure. Why would he say such a thing?

I began to think about the way we hold our burial services -

"When a death occurs within Maori, it is customary for mourners to cry openly and publicly with each other - all family and extended family are expected to return for the Tangihana (funeral), which is usually held at the family Marae (meeting house), where the deceased is kept for three days and the coffin is open until the third day. Local relatives associated with the Marae usually help out in the kitchen by preparing meals for visitors from afar during the three day period. Each time someone arrives at the Marae, they must be welcomed on with a Karanga, and replied to by the visitors (said in a 'wailing' tone). The whole affair is very sad indeed, and the bereaved are reminded of this everytime another group of family or friends, arrive.

On the third day, the burial service is held and the deceased is usually buried in the family cemetery which, more often than not, is not far from the Marae. After the service, a big feast is held whereupon the deceased is remembered by family and friends. Most of the visitors leave once the feast is over, but those who stay, have a party to give the deceased a good sendoff."

I then began to research the way other cultures bury their deceased and I found that a few have the same burial custom as Maori. So, will their loved ones go to hell as well? And if that is the case, then half the people who die and are buried in the same manner, will go to hell, according to my husband.

My research still didn't tell me why my husband said such hurtful remarks though, but luckily I found the answers to my questions in 'The Psychedelic Experience' by Timothy Leary, Richard Alpert and Ralph Metzner. This book is a 'must-have' if you are seeking the 'truth' about what happens to us when we die, and a copy can be downloaded from the 'eBook' section of this web site.

So what happens to the deceased in each scenario above? Where do they go? Read my next article 'Will we see our loved ones again when we die?' for my thoughts on this very sensitive subject.


Peace and Light

Amelia Robinson


About Amelia Robinson

I am the second eldest of five (all girls), and spent most of my growing years on an Orchard, where my father worked. Religion and Spirituality was talked about and sometimes followed, but not persistently. I always felt alone and try as I might, could never seem to find a relationship where I could give my love completely and not get hurt, until I had my children. My aunty once told me that I brought my kids up right because they love and that was the highest compliment anyone could say to me. Still floundering from relationship to relationship in search of 'true love', it wasn't until quite recently that I finally stumbled upon it - love for myself - in all its entirety ... more


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